Widows Out Of Their Comfort Zone

We all live our lives trying to avoid risky situtations and avoid the potential to be hurt, but life doesn't always work out as planned.  As widows we have been taken out of our comfort zone so we may as well try something new and see if it works.  It may, it may not, but you'll never know if you don't give it a try.

As long as you try to stay in that old comfort zone, you will find it hard to heal.  Ignoring the pain doesn't make it any less painful.  You can't hide from it by denying it or ignoring it.  Change is disruptive...But it doesn't make any difference.  You have to get through it and survive.

Never under estimate your inner power to change yourself.  You can do it!

Widows Justifying Ourselves

When we justify, we are trying to convince ourselves that it’s OK to settle for second best…that it’s OK to play it safe…that it’s OK to sell ourselves short. Happy, fulfilled people don’t justify why they don’t have this or that and we shouldn’t either.

Lets tuck our excuses in our back pocket and just go for it. We have our moments of doubt and despair. We have our moments of disappointment and depression, but lets treat it as part of our healing and not as a life sentence. We can get our balance back, lets just give it some time

Widows Pot Luck Supper

Tomorrow I'm the guest speaker at the "Widows First Pot Luck Supper" in Bathurst, New Brunswick. I want to thank Jessica Ryan for all her hard work. Jessica came up with this idea and contacted me. To speak to a ladies group that is so involved in their community is a challenge I'm going to enjoy.

I hope all the communities out there follow Jessica's path and host a "Widows Pot Luck Supper" just for ladies to share their stories. Widows helping widows to grieve and heal - what can be better then that?

Widows For A Joyful Life

I've thought of this alot the last three years since I've become a widow. What is a life of passion? I think it's a joyful life but that's hard to find after the death of a loved one. Everything is grey and dull and its hard to even laugh.

I think there should be a Passion Tree and we should be able to pick our passion. If only it was that easy!! I have found life alot more joyful since I became passionate about helping other widows. I think that to be joyful you have to find your passion in life.

Somehow it will involve helping others because when you stop looking at your grief and focusing on others you can't help feeling. And feeling, any feeling in the beginning is a great start to living a life of passion.

Patience And Understanding Are Needed

Please be patient with widows as they voice their feelings and remember that it is just their frame of mind at that moment. It’s not right or wrong, it’s just how they are feeling. Understand that tomorrow or the next month their frame of mind could be totally different. In other words- please cut them some slack if their frame of mind is not what you think it should be.

I know that there were times that I was overly sensitive to comments made.  On the other hand I was also not sensitive enough to the suffering of others.  I guess that’s why life is a journey and I learn as I go along.  If on my journey I have offended someone I hope that they will also cut me some slack.  We women are emotional creatures which can be both a blessing and a curse.

Key To Moving Forward

The key to moving forward is to decide what is most important to you and then taking action each day to make it better. Even if it doesn't look as if your progressing, you are.  Personal power means being persistent in taking action.  Every time you do something, you learn from it and you find a way to do it better each time you do it. 

A widow cannot get back on her feet after the death of her husband without making a conscious effort to move forward.  You have to decide that your not going to stay down and that your going to take control of your personal power. 

Yes, its hard, but if you don't then you risk depression finding a home in your soul and you don't want to fall into that trap.

Grieve and Heal

This blog will help you Grieve and Heal.  It will provide you with positive tips and inspiration to get your balance back.  Remember it is a journey and you have to keep moving through the Grief so that you can Heal. I know you don’t want to hear that and you may not be ready, but you can’t let grief make a home in your soul.

For my personal journey as a widow please visit The Sisterhood of Widows Blog.  It’s about my passion to help other widows to Grieve and Heal.  It also introduces you to the ultimate Widows book consisting of sixteen widows truthfully sharing their stories of life before and after the death of their husbands.  Their husbands died from cancer, heart attacks, accidents and even suicide. They are amazing women from different backgrounds and ages, who just like you had to face life after the death of their husbands.

Abraham Lincoln

Abraham Lincoln said “People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be”. How we choose to react to being a widow is our choice. Each of us shapes our own destiny by the choices we make. Everyone has it in her power to say, “This I am today, that I will be tomorrow.” The Bible says “You reap what you sow”. Respect your power to choose! It’s not what you know that counts – it’s what you do with what you know! That’s what I call purposeful action.