"Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy: you can't build on it; it's only good for wallowing in." Quote from Katherine Mansfield

Can you enjoy your own quiet time without being lonely or do you consistently need noise or entertainment? Are you able to enjoy simple things like the sound of rain or a child's laughter? Can you be kind to a stranger without expecting anything back?

You will have a sense of contentment and peace when your able to appreciate the simple things, enjoy your own company and relate to others with an open heart. These are important things to strive for in our lives.

Do you feel deeply? - The truth is that when other people are hurting, I hurt too. When they cry, I mist up with them. When they laugh, I join in and when they are lonely I understand. Don’t we all feel connected to some extent and isn’t that a good thing?

We don’t want to become so hardened to the feelings of others that we turn away from their pain. Or do we? What do you think? Does it make you uncomfortable to witness human suffering? It’s hard to know how to handle these situations, but I don’t think we can go wrong by feeling compassion and showing it.

Lately I've stopped several times a day to say "Life is good" and its true. Life is good and the more I appreciate it the more it seems to be so. It brings me to the question "Is it me?" that has created this life and the answer is "Yes".

I can be "ME" and still create my life. I can choose "Life is good" or I can choose "Life is sad and unfair". I choose the positive because it is too exhausting to be sad all the time. When the time comes in your journey to make a choice, what will it be?

International Widows Day - June 23rd. There are an estimated 245 million widows worldwide, 115 million of whom live in poverty and suffer from social stigmatization and economic deprivation purely because they have lost their husbands.

The first International Widows Day took place in 2005 and since that time, the scale of the event has grown, with events across the world.

What are your core values?
List 3 things that you will NEVER change belief in. True values are expressed in your actions. What gives you the best value for your time? That is what indicates what you should do. My core values are God – Respecting the value of others – My health. But as I write this I realize that my actions are not matching my values. I’ve been getting a little slack, but I can do better.

How many times have you thought to yourself. I don’t want to “work” at a new relationship, I want it to be the fun part of my life. And how many times has a nagging voice in your head chimed in, well, just live alone then, because there’s no such thing as a toil free partnership.

We will still argue, still have moments of total frustration. Whether its a friend or another partner, relationships do require effort. So be prepared before you get back into the dating game.