Are You Searching For Meaning?

I’ve been writing for years about the fact that what we put out is what we get back, no exception.  It doesn’t matter what comes into your life as much as how you react to it.

You need to understand that no one is responsible for your future but you.  You create your current and future reality thought by thought because that is the “Law of Attraction”.  What you think and give attention to only gets bigger.  Focus on what’s good so that you will attract even more things into your life to be grateful for.

Now this doesn’t mean that everything well always be great because bad stuff still happens. You will never be in total control of everything unless you lock yourself away from the world and even that’s no guarantee.

The wonder of life is that even when we are down and things seem hopeless, we still have the freedom of choice and can choose who we want to be and how we will react.

You will draw to yourself that which you put out.  ”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is an old saying that still rings true.

Start asking yourself:

• What kind of person do I want to be?
• Why am I here?
• What do I have to offer?

By asking the right questions your search for meaning will unfold in surprising ways.

True Friends

After the death of your husband, true friends will be easy to spot.  They will stand by you no matter how uncomfortable things are.  They don’t have to say a word because they understand your grief and can sense both when you need to be alone and when you need them beside you.

Unfortunately, this is where friends who don’t understand will also be easy to spot.  They just want everything to return to normal in their world.  They want to “hurry up the process of grief” because they find you too depressing to be around.

But life is not normal and will never be “normal” as it was when your loved one was with you.  Your world has changed and adjusting to it has to come on your timeline and not someone else’s.

Don’t feel guilty or sad over friends that seem emotionally shallow.  They probably have never experienced the loss of a loved one and so don’t know how it feels.

Also, don’t worry about the friends that have faded away but instead appreciate those true friends that have stayed with you.

Contentment

Have you ever known someone who beams with contentment?

They are hard to find and very rare.

To have deep contentment is like having a buffer of peace always surrounding you.  It’s not that nothing hard or painful ever happens to you, it’s just that you have this clarity of focus, this ability to laugh amidst difficulty and this deep satisfaction that doesn’t change with the ups and downs of life.

Something happens to me when I’m with people who are deeply contented with life, I actually soak that contentment in and it feeds my soul.  On the other hand when I’m with people who are negative and discontented I find myself unhappy.

Contentment has been defined as a resting of the mind without craving more of what it doesn’t have.

All things in my life – my work, my money, my body, my relationships are important parts of my life, but my heart is not tied to them.  But I’m like most women my age and I struggle to love my body image even though I’m physically and mentally healthy.

What would it be like to not be tied to our body image and to be content with being healthy? It’s like nothing is ever good enough and we have the “not-enough syndrome”.  Our body is not thin enough, our job is not rewarding enough, our _____ is not _____ enough.

Why is it so hard to be content with what we have?  It is a lie that contentment will come once we get what we crave.  Contentment comes from the inner peace we have with ourselves and also from our surroundings.

Go out and seek those people who have found their inner contentment and spend some time with them.  Learning from others is one of the best ways to find your way on this journey of life.

Getting Up When You're Feeling Down

Well, it’s that time of year again, when holidays are starting and everyone is talking about being thankful and grateful. The holiday season starts with Thanksgiving Day and goes through till New Year’s Day. Being thankful is a positive way to attract more situations and experiences to feel thankful for.

But . . . what if . . . you don’t feel particularly th

ankful right now? What if, like so many other widows, you’re having a difficult time and are feeling sad?

Along comes Thanksgiving with all of its added pressures and family obligations and you’re faced with all those “grateful” people telling you to count your blessings.

“Bah, humbug!” you say, “If you lost your loved one like I did you would not be so smiley.”

So how do you handle the holidays when you would rather just stay home and be left alone?

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